Grace Haven Blog

Grace Haven Blog

A Picture of Priceless Support

J: My name is Jennifer, and I am mother to four children, two of whom came to us via adoption. The adoption process is pretty grueling, and can be isolating. Some friends just didn’t understand why we would risk rocking our little boat, and take the emotional and financial risks involved. Others decided we had enough children. Some voiced there support, but really didn’t know how else to be there for us. I found during ...
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Abiding in Truth

Lucia and I have spent many hours together over the last 4.5 years talking about what love is and is not.  In the beginning it was more me doing the talking and in the early days I had no idea the fear she was living with that I might, at any time,  flip my personality on her and in an instant become to her the mother or caregivers who harmed her. After the initial days ...
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How to Help Adoptive Families without Sabotaging

By Tina Kacirek When people ask me how they can help us, one of our greatest challenges is how to allow them in to be with our children. I know details they couldn't dream of. I NEED them to be what my children need, NOT what they think they should be. What every adoptive parent really needs to hear is, "I am willing to be trained to help you connect as a family." It's not ...
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No Guilt, Just Grace

  - Tina Kacirek Recently, our family took a vacation. We were a large group of 9, with 3 wheelchairs, traveling in our 15 passenger van. After arriving back home, I felt a little hesitant about posting pictures. I knew most likely somebody would notice that one family member was missing and ask. To be honest, I really didn't feel like answering to it on social media. There were so many wonderful firsts that happened ...
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The Manuel Family – A Home for Henry

We are the Manuel's, a military family currently living in Missouri.  An international adoption is something I've always said I wouldn't do.  I'm not good with paperwork,  deadlines, writing, etc.    However, after living in New York the last 3 years, we began to hear the voice of God whispering to us His invitation to become part of His plan for adoption.   We honestly hoped it would go away but instead, God spoke even ...
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5 Things to Know About Adopted Children From Hard Places

5 Things to Know About Adopted Children from Hard Places Lack of healthy affection creates confusion and fear surrounding touch.  It may feel invasive or threatening. As adoptive parents build new paths to trust by faithfully loving on their children through gentle touch, children begin developing new brain connections, helping them to positively experience relationships. Children with inconsistent care, learned they couldn't depend on others to keep them safe.  Often, if care did come, it ...
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